Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Not really. I love dandies. It's also my username in most places.
Location and language(s):
America, New Jersey. English (both American and RP), and learning Italian. I dabbled in Latin but not much.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
I'm forty-two. I tend to get along better with those who are older than I, particularly seniors.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Minors (I prefer at least over twenty-one), depression and/or anxiety (posted regularly), bad self-esteem, life drama, recreational drugs, religion or politics (posted regularly), a lot of bad grammar and spelling (unless you're learning English), and frequent obscenities.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
https://dandylover1.dreamwidth.org/488.htmlIs your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Yes. It is up-to-date, and there is a lot of information about me there, as well as my Mastodon and Escargot.chat information.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I have no time for political correctness, lies, or drama. While I always try to be civil during discussions, I share my opinion without reservations. If you are easily offended, please do not add me. I have a very dry and witty sense of humour. There are times when I don't read my friends' page for awhile, and I am trying to change that. I am totally blind, so if you mostly post images, I won't be able to comment on them, as I cannot see them.
You mostly write about:
Entries may consist of anything from short summaries of my day, to surveys, to essays on various topics, to interesting links and quotes that I find, along with my commentary on them. Lately, I have been writing reviews of opera recordings from the 1950's and earlier.
You never or very rarely write about:
Politics, modern celebrities or popular culture, world affairs, fandoms, video games, or mental health.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Public.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No, but if I post any adult content, I always put it behind a cut and age restrict it.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
It varies, from a few posts in a given week to a few in a single day. Often, I post what I call filler entries toward the end of the month. These are entries posted on one date but for another. I try to post a few entries per week.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
No, though if you use the old definition of memes as surveys, I do enjoy those. I also post links to things that are related to the discussion in the entry, but they are not spam, nor am I affiliated with any companies.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
I like sharing my world with others. I also enjoy reading past posts and seeing how much I've changed or remained the same, and perhaps revisiting some interests from my past or broadening my knowledge on various topics.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I haven't read them in a long time, but now, I plan on doing so at least once a week, but I hope more often.
You really enjoy reading about:
People's daily lives, cooking, gardening, high culture (classical music, opera, fine cuisine, history, art, etc.), scientific discoveries, cats and pets in general, literature, poetry, antique menswear, nature, crafts, and the paranormal.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Mental health issues, fandom, visual things that I can't see i.e. a post of all images with no descriptions, politics, world affairs, video games, abuse, drugs, and constant family drama.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I am totally blind, so I couldn't appreciate most of them. I like surveys and links that are on topic or just interesting.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Quality. If you just say "hi" or "I like your entry", etc. that is meaningless. At the same time, it does show me that you are reading my journal, so if you haven't commented in awhile, even that would be acceptable.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No, unless they don't post regularly and/or we never communicate elsewhere i.e. their journal.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
If I have something to say, I say it. If not, I just read and move on. I do wish there were like buttons here, if only so that we users could demonstrate that we've read something, even if we didn't comment on it.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I usually unfriend without warning, unless we were friends for a while, or I feel I owe the person an explanation. I would expect the same from friends.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Not that I can think of at the moment. I'm sure there are some, andmost likely, they are books.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
Just so you have an idea of what I like, my hobbies are studying dandyism, Received Pronunciation, the Regency, and the Italian language, reading, writing, cooking, baking, playing cards and dice, and enjoying warm weather. My Other Interests include coffees, teas, antique menswear and accessories (usually Edwardian), chamber and classical music, old opera singers, plants and gardening, crafts, and history and nature documentaries. I love wit, wordplay, and sarcastic humour without vulgarity. I am happily childfree and an atheist.
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